I have joined the ranks of the unemployed as of March 6th at 4:45 pm. To be completely honest, it's a little bittersweet. I will preface this by saying that I do not, in any way, think stay at home moms are not contributing just as much to their families as their husbands. This is simply an expression of my own guilt and not a judgment on anyone. That being said, I totally do not feel like I am contributing as much as my husband is. It makes me feel an immense amount of guilt. He works full time and is taking 12 credits. His butt is being kicked daily and he gets four to five hours of sleep every night. He has so much stress, and I can't really do anything to alleviate it. And now I'm not working, and I'm doing what I want to do, which is being a stay at home mom. I really really appreciate my husband so much for everything he does. He doesn't give me any grief about not working anymore, and he's glad that our kid is being raised primarily by me and not an outside caregiver. I'm so glad I married the guy that I did.
This past week has felt more like I've been on vacation than anything else. I don't feel like work is done. I feel like I'll be going back to my desk at work on Monday, whenever Monday comes because every day is perpetually Saturday. It's weird.
Ask Baby B what he thinks you should do :)
ReplyDeleteI'm proud of you and Chris both for knowing what is important! And stop feeling guilty for EVERYTHING....lol
ReplyDeleteA friend of mine mentioned once that when given the choice between spending an hour relaxing or spending that hour doing house work, she'd always choose house work because she felt if her husband was working she must too.
ReplyDeleteThat has kept my butt in gear at home. Andrew is also working full time and taking 12 credits and me 10 credits. But if I can keep up the housework so that he doesn't have chores to do when he comes home and he can spend the time with Abby, then things feel pretty balanced out.
I stress about not contributing financially to our family but we both agree staying home with Abby is far more valuable than money.
Adam stayed home with me for a week when Tripp was born. When it was time for him to go back, he told me that he was glad that he could go to work and not have to stay at home with the kids all day like me, and that my job was harder than his, ha ha. He doesn't even mind doing the dishes once in a while. Although I do some part-time work, it's more for my feeling productive really than helping financially.
ReplyDeleteYou married a great guy. Being a stay at home mom is such a blessing. Don't feel guilty. Ben needs you! Hopefully the stress that Chris is feeling won't be permanent.
ReplyDeleteI share this guilt with you. Kelley works at least ten or twelve hours a day and I work none. :( I'm too scared to venture out into this creepy town without Kelley. But you have a baby and that is hard work! I bet he loves having his mommy all the time now!
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