Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Please indulge my rambling...

First, I want to talk savings. I'm still excited about couponing because I'm cheap! This is what I got yesterday

for $20.95. Heck yes, fool! Well, not that I'm calling YOU a fool. It's just, er, something I say. Like Mr. T, except that I'm nothing like him. Well, my mohawk does resemble his a bit... Anyway, awesome, right?

Next up, I want to talk about the never ending sleep saga that is my life. My most recent attempt in trying to get Ben to sleep by himself was to take one side of his crib off and put it next to my bed sidecar style. This worked and didn't work. Sure, he slept by himself, but he still needed me to get him back to sleep in the middle of the night. I knew he would, obviously, but I didn't know that I would bring him into our bed in my sleep, thus making the sidecar crib irrelevant. And on nights like last night where he tossed and turned and did cartwheels and flips and basically did an Olympic gymnastic floor routine in his sleep while we tried to sleep, co-sleeping just kind of doesn't work for us anymore. You know, like I've been saying for a while now.

So, what I'm getting at is that I really want to talk about sleep training. Which is a VERY taboo subject on the internets, but hey yall, I don't care how you get your kid to sleep. Maybe if it works for you, it can work for me, too. I'll tell you what has not worked. Cry it out. I tried it because it worked for some friends and family who I consider to be very good and loving parents and also sensitive to the needs of their children. It's worked quite wonderfully for them. The first night, Ben cried for an hour and a half. The second was an hour, the third an hour and a half, the fourth and fifth an hour each. He also slept for shorter and shorter periods each night after he fell asleep. And also, we were falling apart every night. It was just so awful to hear him cry like that. I'd never heard him cry like that before, and I haven't since then either. So, that particular method is out. Has anyone done something different to help their child fall asleep by his/herself? I'm going to moderate the comments on this post. If you are comfortable with sharing your method with the world, let me know. If you'd like to tell me (I will totally not judge you), but not the internets, I won't post your comment.

A little more info- we have a routine, a set bedtime, etc. I realize those are important to have for child, whether they fall asleep on their own or not. I appreciate any insight you have. I'm not dying over here or anything. I just want Ben to be well rested and also to be able to do something every once in a while when Ben sleeps. Well, last night I thought I'd die when Ben woke up to nurse for the millionth time and then decided he'd like to get up and play. Then I got to spend an hour trying to get him to go back to sleep. So, yeah, anything you'd like to tell me about that would be welcome.


  1. One advice that I wish I tried was to learn when the infant is tired or sleepy by signs like rubbing his eyes. The idea is to lay the child down before he falls asleep in your arm to establish good sleeping habit that will last a life time. It is also recommended to make sure a child doesn't get too overtired due to the issue that it is harder for them to fall asleep.

  2. Why do we keep doing things in our sleep that we constantly tell ourselves not to do?

  3. so how would i go about finding good coupons?

  4. I'll indulge! But I don't have an Albertson's :( How can I save lots of money, hmmm? Help me coupon guru!

  5. Every time I spend $100 at Hobbytown I get a coupon back for $5 off my next purchase! Savings!

  6. Does he have a blankie? Giving Olivia a blankie changed our lives. She uses it to soothe. And I hate the word soothe, so you know I'm serious.

    We do the Baby Whisperer method. Bedtime routine, bottle, "good night sweetie," and then we do not leave the room until she is asleep. If she cries, we let it go until we know it's serious (a couple minutes, 5 TOPS) and then we pick her up until she's calm. As soon as she is calm, tell her goodnight sweetie and put her down.

    A big thing for us was going in too soon. Sometimes she will cry for a minute and then just make weird noises to entertain herself. I am totally anti CIO. We never leave her if she sounds distressed.

    My email addy is on my profile if you want to chat about this. Our night routine is like a dream now! No more 45 minute rock/shoosh sessions.